Rule #14: Listen to Your Heart

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One night our teenage daughter Olivia was struggling to decide between two Friday night invitations -- one to a high school football game with close friends, the other to a party with new faces.

Soft commitments had been made to each, making the decision ever more delicate. Olivia began to formally contemplate the pros and cons (a popular step) when I asked her what she really wanted to do, what her heart said. She paused, looked inside and quickly found her decision. Her heart knew.

This chapter offers ways to improve your PDM (personal decision-making machine).

The author explains: "A healthy PDM relies on a blend of intuition, insight, common sense and wisdom. Too often, we neglect these elements. Having said that, it's important to realize that listening to your heart is not the same as seeking personal gratification. The difference between these two may be as simple as asking:

"What's the best use of my time right now?" vs.

"What do I feel like doing?"

Plus, the author stands behind this provocative statement: "There's no such thing as a bad decision" (page 118).

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